Stop Breaking Your Heart

Jenn

When I speak of heartbreak here, I’m not referring to the most obvious kind caused by let’s say, the end of a romantic relationship, close friendship, death, or even betrayal.

I’m referring to the quieter kind; the subtle ones that you inflict as a result of your everyday choices.

They are not as noticeable, but they can affect us just as deeply.

The heartbreak of not setting boundaries in your connections.

Of holding expectations that were never spoken.

Of compromising on what you actually value.

Of overthinking yourself into a problem that was never really there, causing yourself unnecessary wahala (trouble, distress).

And then the times you didn't keep the promise you made to yourself…

These small heartbreaks pile up over time and can eventually drain or wear us out.

They can even lead to a form of emotional burnout if left unattended.

I've been there. I used to be great at breaking my own heart.

It was the second kind of burnout that I experienced around the period I began my holistic wellness journey.

Your emotions are part of your inner life: your heart and your soul. And when that inner life is wounded, it can spill into your thinking, your relationships, or even your body. Quietly, until something gives.

One way of ending this begins with knowing your values and allowing them to guide how you live.

Another is by guarding what you give access to such as your time, your mind, and overall your inner world.

Being mindful of what you watch, listen to, and even the conversations you entertain.

I think this proverb says it best: "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."